The BDSM niche includes not only kinks in sexual satisfaction. Fetish can cover financial domination, too, which is about the exchange of powers between partners, but it doesn’t involve physical contact. Those who pay and suffer findom are paypigs. But if you’re on this page, then you already know what paypig means. And you are interested in becoming one of them. Be a good boy and keep reading to find out more about what’s waiting for you if you join the findom world.
More About Findom and Paypigs
Findom or financial domination is about dominance and submission. In this fetish, a dominant partner controls the money spending of a submissive who voluntarily agrees to be controlled. Dominants often set certain tasks that a submissive has to do—buy a gift, pay bills, etc. The submissive, in return, will receive a cold heart, praise, or humiliation—it depends on what style of communication both partners agree on.
Who is who in findom? As you understand, a paypig is a submissive. Other names are cash piggy, finsub, or money slave. Meanwhile, a dominant (mainly, a woman) is called findomme, Goddess, money domme, or money mistress. Yet, you can also meet female paypigs and male findom, but it does not happen that often.
Do people practice this fetish offline, finding a partner virtually, or by chance? Since it’s a kink practice that doesn’t involve physical contact, offline communication is simply not necessary. Your findomme can easily control you distantly. Yet, there may be exceptions, and paypig will follow his lovely money mistress during her shopping trip being her personal wallet.
Why Do Men Become Pay Pigs? The Psychology Behind
“I feel I’m weak and strange if I want to be a paypig.”
You should be weak, darling, because you have to submit to your domme and accept her control unquestioningly.
However, your desire to be dominated financially is not strange, but it has a psychological explanation.
Firstly, our world still puts a lot of pressure on men in terms of responsibilities. Men live with the thought, “I have to control everything, otherwise, I will lose.” Financial domination is a psychological way for such men to feel relief from all the responsibilities and get a glimpse of what it is to let someone rule their life, even if it’s only about money.
Secondly, boys are often raised with the motto “earn praise by doing something.” Such boys turn into overachievers but still haven’t gotten the desired praise. Finding a money mistress who will praise you for gifts and tributes on findom sites is one of the ways to feel valued.
Some other men simply have a kink for being humiliated by someone for their achievements—in terms of findom, this achievement is money. Maybe, deep inside, they believe all their efforts are in vain and thus want to be punished for working hard and making money.
Is Findom the Same as FemDom, Sugar Dating, and Classic BDSM?
The Internet and online sexual world let you fulfill all your fetishes. Yet, you don’t want to look uneducated in the eye of your findomme when it turns out you misinterpret paypig dating and associate it with other kinks (you will be humiliated enough, so no need to get unnecessarily embarrassed).
- The first thing to say is that femdom and findom are completely different, although these words look similar. Femdom is about the full domination of women in sex. Findom can also be about the domination of men, although rarely, and doesn’t involve physical contact, unlike femdom.
- What about sugar dating? Some people think that paypig and sugar dating are similar because both are about money. However, in sugar dating, both partners get “the benefits”: a sugar mommy or daddy receives attention, companionship, and even emotional support, and a sugar baby gets money, gifts, and mentorship. In sugar dating, a person who pays is in no way humiliated but respected. Meanwhile, in findom, a person who pays gets nothing but humiliation and total control (although, as a paypig, you can ask your findomme for praise or another style of communication you would like to have in this relationship).
- Lastly, classic BDSM. Findom is a part of BDSM, but, unlike other BDSM practices, it rarely involves sex. That’s why you can put findom on the same shelf as other BDSM fetishes.
What Is the Role of a Paypig in Findom Relationships?
Yes, in findoms, it’s your role to feel worthless and humiliated. However, when talking about the real role of money slaves, pay pigs are central figures.
Yes, Firstly, It’s about Money
In the findom dynamic, the biggest pleasure a paypig can bring to his goddess is money. By giving tributes to your top mistress, you can literally support her living, if she’s a full-time findomme.
You Let Your Woman Feel the Power
In financial domination, it’s not only you who’s getting the fun and desired humiliation. It’s also a money mistress who gets the needed power and the sense of superiority, even if it’s only over you and your finances.
Your Paypig Code
The first rule of Fight Club is you do not talk about Fight Club
Okay, you are allowed to talk about your paypig fetishes (if you are not a coward, of course). However, if you want to be a good money slave, you MUST follow certain rules:
- If you find your findomme on a dating website, you should send a tribute before sending a message. It’s your entry ticket, your resume, your begging letter.
- It’s you who gives, not receives. That’s why, don’t wait (God forbid even ask) for intimate photos and affection. Findom is not about satisfying your sexual needs.
- No questions, just obey. Of course, it doesn’t mean you don’t discuss your expectations in the first phases of communication with a findomme, yet, when both agree on certain terms, they should not break the promises.
- NEVER try to impose your dominance and switch the roles with your domme. If you feel the need to control, findom may not be for you.
- Say thank you for each opportunity to be humiliated and used. Your Goddess gives you the privilege to serve her, so be grateful!
- Don’t expect this dynamic to turn into love. Financial domination is only about satisfying your goddess by serving her with your money. This fetish doesn’t grow into love.
- Keep to the budget. Both you and your domme can set a limit on the amount of money you can send per month, for example. This can guarantee that you don’t spend all your money and that your findom doesn’t feel the ethical guilt.
Avoiding Scam on Paypig Sites—Top Tips
Unfortunately, when you enter the world of paypig dating, you can come across scam sites and dommes. You, as a money slave, should be punished financially, but it should be only in terms of financial domination, not financial fraud.
Let’s start with a fake paypig site, what does it look like?
- A fake paypig service will definitely have a poor design and grammar. Individuals behind fake sites often overlook how their English sounds. Besides, they rarely invest in their own design but steal visuals and stock images from others.
- Scam findomme services also ask for phone numbers and ID (some of the brave ones even insist on inserting your credit card details) during registration. Trusted websites must provide anonymous registration without initial investment—you may sign up and not like potential dommes on the site, which is why you need an opportunity to leave the service without paying.
- Real sites often have a community and presence on social media platforms. Even new services create social media pages to attract an audience. If a chosen website can’t offer this feature, it’s fake.
And what about fake dommes? It may be hard to distinguish whether the lady is not fake—you will pay money for humiliation, anyway. Yet, certain signs can reveal a fraudulent individual:
- She charges without discussing the terms of a paypig agreement. Tributes are like gifts to draw the attention of a potential domme. But if your domme who chose you starts demanding money without prior discussion of your expectations from this dating, she’s here only for money and has no clue how a real domme works.
- Fake dommes often don’t have video shows on their profiles, and even if they do, the pics are stolen. Also, they never agree to have a video chat because the women they display on their profiles are different from the ones managing the accounts.
- Her answers may sound generic or even AI-made. Of course, they should be filled with humiliation phrases, but a real findomme will sound authentic.
- Also, although findommes insert their dominance and can answer coldly (if asked), they don’t demand paying in a pushy way. They don’t beg, they attract. Fakes are aggressive because they’re trying to rush you before you realize it’s a scam.
